For some people who might not know, Polyamory is defined as the state or practice of having more than one open romantic relationship at a time. Or basically, "loving more than one". Nowadays, having affairs is becoming quite common. I have friends who do engage in this kind of relationships but those relationships are being kept in secret from other parties. At first, that is what I thought of what Polyamory is. But it’s not.
As I began my research, I discovered that Polyamory is having more than one relationship and at the same time, it is legal for the other parties involved. In other words, it is alright if the one you’re with is with someone else too. It’s a bit shocking for me. But what is more shocking is that the people who are the “partners” often become friends with each other. It’s like they are being dated at the same time and it is okay for them that they are dated together. How can you look at the one you love in the hands of someone else? So I started to wonder, how do polyamorous people make their relationship work? What are needed for it to work?
As I began my research, I discovered that Polyamory is having more than one relationship and at the same time, it is legal for the other parties involved. In other words, it is alright if the one you’re with is with someone else too. It’s a bit shocking for me. But what is more shocking is that the people who are the “partners” often become friends with each other. It’s like they are being dated at the same time and it is okay for them that they are dated together. How can you look at the one you love in the hands of someone else? So I started to wonder, how do polyamorous people make their relationship work? What are needed for it to work?
Upon my research, I read an article entitled, Polyamory: A progressive approach to relationships by Cylest Andaloro-Brooks. In that article, I discovered the different forms and values for Polyamory to work. There you will find a quotation that says, "It's normal for us". It was said because some people argue against polyamory, saying that when one's love is divided among multiple partners, the love is lessened.
Well in my opinion, being normal when you have others to share your love with or the love you're supposed to get is lessened is still hard for me to understand. I believe it's because here in our society, polyamory is not yet really accepted. Although I read articles about polyamory here in the country, it will be difficult for many to accept it.
Another article I've read was New Sexual Revolution: Polyamory May Be Good for You by Stephanie Pappas and LiveScience. That article was a story of four people who became polyamorists and a study on how polyamory is practiced. In that article, you will find a quotation that says, "People in these relationships really communicate. They communicate to death".
At first, I thought polyamorists only communicate their other partners separately. I thought that their terms of communication was from time-to-time basis as long as both of the partners get similar time frame compared to each other. But as I read about this article, both partners or even the partner's partner do communicate a lot. They know each and everyone's lifestyle as if they are a family. I've realized that these kind of relationships really do work.
I believe that one reason for an individual to become polyamorous is because his or her monogamous relationship isn’t working. It’s an effect of too much pain experienced in a relationship. Or they’re just too scared to be hurt badly. And maybe for some, they think it is fun or they just can’t handle or imagine themselves loving one person for the rest of their lives. But it’s their choice. We should not judge them.
Thinking about these topic made me wonder how society evolves over time. When I told my friends about Polyamory, they we're shocked but at the same time were interested. We don't know what will happen or what the outcome might be if we practice Polyamory. Is it good or bad to our society? There are many questions to be asked but we will never know if we don't do something.
At first, I thought polyamorists only communicate their other partners separately. I thought that their terms of communication was from time-to-time basis as long as both of the partners get similar time frame compared to each other. But as I read about this article, both partners or even the partner's partner do communicate a lot. They know each and everyone's lifestyle as if they are a family. I've realized that these kind of relationships really do work.
I believe that one reason for an individual to become polyamorous is because his or her monogamous relationship isn’t working. It’s an effect of too much pain experienced in a relationship. Or they’re just too scared to be hurt badly. And maybe for some, they think it is fun or they just can’t handle or imagine themselves loving one person for the rest of their lives. But it’s their choice. We should not judge them.
Thinking about these topic made me wonder how society evolves over time. When I told my friends about Polyamory, they we're shocked but at the same time were interested. We don't know what will happen or what the outcome might be if we practice Polyamory. Is it good or bad to our society? There are many questions to be asked but we will never know if we don't do something.
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