Having enough knowledge about polyamory is really interesting. Not that I want to practice it, but it's good knowing that this kind of relationship exists. It helps me to be open-minded about different things and allows me to know that there are different options in life. That being said, I began to research more about polyamory.
Upon researching articles about polyamory experiences, I found an article entitled "Love Like an Ocean: Diving Deep into Polyamory" by Kendra Holliday in the site "The Beautiful Kind". The story centers on the writer as she is living polyamorously with his partner for five years.
As I read the story, I figured that some polyamorous relationships started out as monagamous relationships. Like in the story of the writer, she and her partner first had a monogamous relationship but as the time went by, they became polyamorous.
From that article, a quotation that says "Love is like an ocean, not a bathtub. One person doesn't need to get out in order for another to get in." is said by the writer. It means that their relationship is open. There are a lot of other people that you can love, not just the one you're currently in to. One can love many at the same time with the consent of both partners. That was the reason the writer and her partner decided to become polyamorous.
I believe that that quotation depends on the person because some people don't believe in it especially those who are living monogamously. I think the quotation itself is childish. The reason that made me think that way is because the writer and her partner have been together for five years but they're not married. They don't even live together. They keep their households, finances and family separately. I think that it's for those who are afraid of settling down with one person and live monogamously.
Another article I've came across with is entitled "Adventures in Polyamory" by JT Eberhand in the site "Patheos: Hosting the Conversation on Faith". The story is about the writer who met a woman online and later found out that the woman has a husband and been living polyamorously. The writer tried to explore and experience what is polyamory.
As I read the story, the writer was shocked as the woman told him that they should have sex. There were many questions that entered the writers mind like "What about your husband?" and "Is your husband really ok with this". The woman just keeps talking seriously and the writer decided to get on with it whatever may happen so they decided to meet up. As they went at the woman's house, the writer felt nervous because he thinks that the husband might punch him any minute but instead the husband hugged him and just keeps smiling as they had conversations. The writer felt nervous again when the woman said directly to his husband, "I'm going to have sex with this man". But instead the husband just laugh and said "Cool". The writer and the woman spent the whole night together and in the morning the woman kissed her husband like nothing happened.
In the story, a quotation was said by the writer that says "But I just don't know of I can have sex without falling in love". I think being a noob in these kind of relationship needs wide adjustments in life. It affects who you are if you choose to change. Like in the story, the writer at first have issues going on in his life. People around him believes that he is role model and always say to him that he should behave as a role model. However, he believes that he is still young and wanted to explore more and new things in life. He believes that being honest is what you have to do to be a role model so he shared one experience in his life.
What makes the concept of polyamory interesting is that it's not cheating. All polyamorous individuals are free to love more than one. Although some are not because there are rules in some polyamorous relationship. But one good thing about polyamory is that it doesn't pose a huge threat to the relationship.
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