Blogpost 3: The Quad

Knowing the different types of polyamorous relationship for me is really exciting and at the same time it makes me feel funny. Another type of Polyamory I've learned is the Quad. A Quad relationship occurs when four individuals share relationship with one another. As I was shocked that there was a Triad, it made me shocked again when I found out that there is a Quad, which now involves four individuals. But I've discovered that a Quad oftenly occurs with two couples that share relationships with one another.

Upon researching articles about Quad relationships, I read an article entitled "My wife has a boyfriend" by NJMarco in the site "SheKnows: Beauty & Style".  It’s a story of the writer, Marco, and his wife, Jasmine, who met another couple, Ramon and Joanne, and later became a Quad.


As I read the story, I learned that there are obstacles in having a Quad relationship. There were tough times such as the writer planned to stop being polyamorous. Yet they still try to work things out because they all love each other.

Those obstacles made the quotation that says, "What if someone falls too hard for the other’s spouse?". This was said because they were first-timers of having a Quad relationship. They were not sure at first if the things they were doing are right. They didn't even know that there is a term for what they are doing. There were a lot of problems that entered their minds.

 

In my opinion, having such relationship is a difficult thing to do. It’s hard to find a partner who will accept that you can have other partners besides him or her. Most of the time when a partner finds out that you have another partner, he or she will easily let you go or break up with you. But now I believe that there are instances that one accepts such situations for the benefit of their partners and their own.

 

Another Quad article I've read is entitled "In with the new out with the past" by Temptress in the site "Our Poly Life". The article is about Temptress and Fix, and Goddess and Big, who became a Quad. Their story deals with different problems in the relationship. One problem is that they move from one place to another from time to time. But most problems concern the relationship itself.

 

 

Those problems brought up the quotation that says, "This isn't how it is supposed to be". They dealt with it and at some point, they manage to settle in one place at last. But as the relationship went by, one partner, Big, chose to break up with them and move on with his own life.

 

Based on the articles I've read about Quad relationships, I've learned that one may choose to leave the relationship even if at first, before engaging in a Quad, they were together as partners before meeting the other couple. Like in the case of Goddess, she and Big were partners even before meeting Fix and Temptress, but she choses to stay in the relationship as a Triad even if Big choses to leave.

 

I realized that things like this are possible. Although some Quad relationships may still be in a working progress, as long as they all are willing to give the relationship the effort it needs and all have the guts to give it a shot, things will do well.