Blogpost 2: The Triad

When I heard about Triad, first thing came to my mind was the term "threesome", which is a sexual term of three individuals who are having a sexual intercourse. I thought that was Triad but it's only half true. Triad is one type or form of polyamory or polyamorous relationship I’ve learned based on the article I've read from my previous blogpost. A Triad occurs wherein three individuals share relationship with one another, not just sexual. I’ve also learned that the Triad is the most common among all types of polyamory.

As I was going through articles about Triad relationships, one that made me interested the most was the story or article “First Time For Everything: A Polyamorous Relationship” by Anya James in the site "The Frisky: Love. Life. Stars. Style.". In the story, the writer met a couple and later on they became a Triad relationship. The story interests me because at the end, even after two of the three of them broke up already, the other two still remained in the relationship and they went on with their lives with the other two who still remained friends.
 

From that article, I've read a quotation that says, “A relationship’s value does not depend on its length. Each stage of a relationship is a part of your life, and doesn’t have to last forever to be successful.”

I believe this quotation is true. A value of a relationship cannot be measured on how long it may be. Sometimes the shorter relationships we had are better than the longer ones. And having break ups do not mean that the relationship is a failure. Most of the time it is better for others to be friends than to be lovers.

 

Another article about Triad I came across was entitled "First Time For Everything: Dating A Couple" by Chloe Monroe also in the site "The Frisky: Love. Life. Stars. Style.". The article is a story of the writer who met a couple and later became a Triad.

In that article, a quotation that says "Why Not? It's not like I'll be dating her as well. One date won't hurt.". It was said by the writer because at first, she was supposed to be seeing the guy only but as they go dating, she met the other woman and they eventually became a Triad.


I think some people became polyamorous because of curiosity and sudden or lack of decision making. Like the writer at first, she was only interested to the man, not knowing or expecting that she will also get to like the other woman or in some cases the other partner. I think many of them bet their lives to be in this relationship to try or experience and thinking that maybe this kind of relationship is for them.
 

All relationships have purposes in life even the bad ones. We should learn from those bad experiences because having mistakes helps us to learn and to grow. But remember to treasure every relationship we make whether it’s good or bad because these experiences made us who we are in life and what we are today.